Friday, June 12, 2009

Deep thoughts: "This too will pass.........".

Once a King called upon all of his wise men and asked them, "Is there a mantra or suggestion which works in every situation, in every circumstance, in every place and in every time. Something which can help me when none of you is available to advise me. Tell me is there any mantra?" All wise men got puzzled by King"s question. One answer for all questions? Something that works everywhere, in every situation? In every joy, every sorrow, every defeat and every victory?

They thought and thought. After a lengthy discussion, an old man suggested something which appealed to all of them. They went to the king and gave him something written on paper. But the condition was that king was not to see it out of curiosity. Only in extreme danger, when the King finds himself alone and there seems to be no way, only then he’ll have to see it. The King put the papers under his Diamond ring.

After a few days, the neighbors attacked the Kingdom. It was a collective surprise attack of the King’s enemies. King and his army fought bravely but lost the battle. King had to fled on his horse. The enemies were following him. His horse took him far away in the Jungle. He could hear many troops of horses following him and the noise was coming closer and closer. Suddenly the King found himself standing at the end of the road - that road was not going anywhere. Underneath there was a rocky valley thousand feet deep. If he jumped into it, he would be finished. And he could not return because it was a small road. The sound of enemy’s horses was approaching fast. King became restless. There seemed to be no way..

Then suddenly he saw the Diamond in his ring shining in the sun, and he remembered the message hidden in the ring. He opened the diamond and read the message. The message was very small but very great. The message was – “This too will pass." The King read it. Again read it. Suddenly something struck him- Yes! It too will pass. Only a few days ago, I was enjoying my kingdom. I was the mightiest of all the Kings. Yet today, the Kingdom and all his pleasure have gone. I am here trying to escape from enemies. However when those days of luxuries have gone, this day of danger too will pass. Calm come on his face. He kept standing there. The place where he was standing was full of natural beauty. He had never known that such a beautiful place was also a part of his Kingdom. The revelation of the message had a great effect on him. He relaxed and forgot about those following him.

After a few minutes he realized that the noise of the horses and the enemy coming was receding. They moved into some other part of the mountains and were not on that path. The King was very brave. He reorganized his army and fought again. He defeated the enemy and regained his lost empire. When he returned to his empire after victory, he was received with much fan fare at the door. The whole capital was rejoicing in the victory. Everyone was in a festive mood. Flowers were being thrown on the King from every house, from every corner. People were dancing and singing. For a moment King said to himself," I am one of the bravest and greatest Kings. It is not easy to defeat me..:

With all the reception and celebration he saw an ego emerging in him. Suddenly the Diamond of his ring flashed in the sunlight and reminded him of the message. He opened it and read it again: "This too will pass" He became silent. His face went through a total change -from the egoist he moved to a state of utter humbleness. If this too is going to pass, it is not yours. The defeat was not yours, the victory is not yours. You are just a watcher. Everything passes by We are witness of all this. We are the perceiver. Life comes and goes. Happiness comes and goes. Sorrow comes and goes.

Now as you have read this story, just sit silently and evaluate your own life... Think of the moments of joy and victory in your life. Think of the moment of Sorrow and defeat. Are they permanent? They all come and pass away. Life just passes away. There were friends in the past. They have gone. There are friends today. They too will go. There will be new friends tomorrow. They too will go. There were enemies in the past. They have gone. There may be enemies in the present. They too will go. There will be new enemies tomorrow and.. they too will go.

There is nothing permanent in this world. Every thing changes except the law of change. Think over it from your own perspective. You have seen all the changes. You have survived all setbacks, all defeats and all sorrows. All have passed away. If there are problems in the present, they too will pass away. Because nothing remains forever. Joy and sorrow are the two faces of the same coin. They both will pass away. Who are you in reality? Know your real face. Your face is not your true face. It will change with the time. However, there is something in you, which will not change.. It will remain unchanged. What is that unchangeable? It is nothing but your true self. You are just a witness of change.

This too will pass.....& it dawns that the only permanent thing in life is...CHANGE....TIME....PASS!!

Thursday, June 11, 2009

A GOOD SAMARITAN - PRAKASH J JOGI, my unlce

A dedication...straight from the heart to my dearest Prakash maama:
I not only call you uncle, I call you friend!
Uncle, you're forever in my heart.
Uncles like you are precious and few!
An uncle grows more treasured as time goes by!
Uncle:People who are nice as you,are great to be related to!
An uncle is someone special to remember with warmth,think of with pride,and cherish with love.
An uncle is a gift whose worth cannot be measured except by the heart.
An uncle is a joy to remember your whole life through.
Everything is nicer when shared with an uncle!
A garden of love grows in my uncle's heart.
An uncle adds beauty, joy, and love to life.
An uncle makes life a little sweeter.

Yes, these are emotions that tug my heart when I think of my dear maama-Prakash !He has been that God sent angel with whom a special relation has been bonded with my soul.

They say a uncle's relation with his nephew is always unique & special! How true!! From the times, I can recollect, my maama(as i lovingly call him) has been that one person with whom my heart has synchronised perfectly in tune. Distances or time never made any difference.Whenever we met,the frequence just matched perfectly. We somehow have a peculiar bonding that our perceptions of things/people somehow gelled. Without a hitch, I could share anything/everything with my maama who listens to understand the feelings. It goes without saying that he was the one to hear all my issues, acts, wants, needs & be that soothing hand on my shoulder when I needed that the most.

Maama has a unique sense of houmour that can have a uplifting efffect on most people in the most tiring of situations.He has this God blessed ability to laugh at slef & situation that eases the pressures around. That is one ability & a caring heart has people drawn to him like a magnet in their times of duress or happiness. His witty one-liners & a perfect sense of timing make him being the centre of all attention & fun at gatherings . All along I have been a silent admirer of these acts of my maama,who by himself is sucha simple soul that I'am sure is not even aware of the fact that these are rare traits in people, especially in these times & not many people are luky to be blessed so.

Infact if & when he might read this post on my blog, me might in all probability laugh & ridicule my writting this post (alongwith my sister , his sisters & few others) ,making fun of my writting, words or intent. But Maama, these are heartfelt words that I genuinely mean from the bottom of my soul to say you've loved me like a parent And you've acted like a true friend to me & you would not even be aware of these impacts you have left on me.

Deep within me I know that you have been that special soulmate who I shall always chreish,wherever I'm.

People who are nice as you are great to be related to!It is indeed my fortune that we are blood relatives.But the fact is my respects for you as a person has grown immensely through the times as I began realising what a special soul you have been!

It is not easy to have a heavy heart,yet make others happy & have people smiling around.You have that special ability & I guess, it's God's ways of choosing you to spread cheer,fun & smiles to people around who need these the most. You were invariably the 1st to nkow of all my heart's wants & feelings with my memory recalling that I would wait for my summer vacations to share with you my inner most feelings that I did not probably want to share with my friends or family .And only afre sharing with you those trivial things,would my heart feel lighter. It has not changed even till date & I doubt it would never be otherwise!

Today, I would like to say loud & clear that you're the best uncle I've got.Thanks for being that special parent to me at times & also a great friend most of the times .Eeven today, I feel lighter only when I share things with you & look forward like a little boy for our chat sessions.It is rather funny that we end up talking the most irrelevant of things & share wierdest of funny liners,without really discussing the real issues.But somehow it helps see things differently & solve the issues at hands.

There is nothing that is hidden from you & you are the select few who have known me inside out-the way I'm...so long & shall be that way all along .You have been a strength & not only for me but many people in our circles.

I salute your special ways in which you connect with all your near/dear ones to soothe concerns, worries,fears & form the pillar of their strength.Pray God always gives you these prowess to act as HIS chosen guardian angel to all the needy & weak. This,I say with conviction through the spiritual I have gained,thanks primarily to your connection.

I may sound sarcastic at times when I hear that you are for ever travelling to Mumbai, Pune,Hyderbad,Bangalore or Mangalore but I have the deepest of respects for that special trait of yours to be able to go & add that strength that they need at their moment of crisises.My admiration for you has grown immensely over the times as you do that so selflessly & without worrying about yourself,you plunge to help others.

Today, we may not be able to communicate as often as we would like to, but then,to say I not only call you my favourite Uncle ,I also call you my bestest friend is a fact that I say with pride today & forever!!

A good samaritan you indeed are, Maama,

Love u maama for what you are ! With repsects & admiration!!
SAIRAM
(I wanted to write something very light, funny & hilarious about you & my association with you, but the fact is that amidst all those fun,laughter,cheer the REAL SIDE of you might have got shadowed & hence just left my heart do the writting.....But yes,this article is just the draft & would continue evolving through times.....)

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Why do we have to losoe someone before we understand them?

Jayanthi Kadri,Late : My aunt-Jayanthi Maami (Paama, as me & all in d' fmaily called her) who filled my life with hues and lot of questions to add colours that every child needs while growing up .It was she who never once made me realize that I was a normal kid. She being highly educated & a strict disciplinarian always threw challenges at me ,even at a tender age & helped me mature faster than a normal kid would! She was a icon of everything righteous in the family which ofcourse was resented by most of the kids around. She was very popular at the school where she taught Kannada-SOPHIA'S HIGH SCHOOL,a very well known educational institution & was a very good musician-playing the VEENA with a melodious singing vocals too. I grew up seeing her practise her singing & playing the Veena .Being a teacher,she wanted to inclulcate some of the best habits into the kinds even at home. We never relaised that but rather grew to resent her strictness around. But looking back , my heart now heart bleeds & wishes that I had told her just how big a role she has played in moulding me into what I'm today. Cleanliness matterd a lot to her. She had her own unique ways of shwocasing her love towards us kids & ignorant,as we were never understood the depth of her feelings/views. We saw her asa samaritan to everybody else in society & a strict stewardess at home. I still recollect a few incidents of my growing up with such strict measures when my parents were away at work,that I even now go speechless.But for a fact that I would not have been exposed ot literature, arts, music & cleanliness the way you were.

Why is it that sometimes the most important things are always said during a goodbye? Why did I have to wait till an obituary to express my love & respects for her?

Maami,today I have relaised what it was for you to face the world alone & strive for the betterment of all the kids & some of the families in M'lore for whom you were the bread provider!

I realised how very respectful & loved you were in society,the day the entire shcool,studesnt,staff,parents ,etc truned up to shower their respects on your last journey!

Today, with due humbleness I slaute you for who you were & it is quiet understandable that the LORD wanted you by HIS side so early .Maami,rest assured all your hardwork has paid dividends & the kids /family you cared so much for are now doing absolutely well.All thanks to your sacrifice, love & care! But for you,so many lives would have not seen the better sides of life that they are enjoying now!

Pray, your soul rest in peace! Seeking your blessings & care,always...my dear Maami!

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Ganesh :My own BIG Brother!!

GANESH PRASAD KADRI:(Ganesha for me)
It is said "A brother is a friend provided by nature" .How true?! I'm lucky indeed that one of my best & closest friend is also provided by destiny as my own cousin brother-Ganesh! Infact I feel he is not my cousin ,but my own relfection of a soulmate-'brother'!

If I were to look at any one person who instills a sense of inspiration in me -is definitely my cousin -Ganesh.If I have noticed one person metamorphsis his situations,it has to be Ganesh!

"A brother shares childhood memories and grown-up dreams" said a Author Unknown!
He is just two years elder to me & I vividly recollect how easily we got along from my 1st recollection of him way back when I was 5yrs old & he a hyperactive 7yrs old. We had gone out playing with our familes at a park -Maryapanapalya park in Bangalore as they were down for a famliy trip. He was kind of a hero with ability to execute all kind of boyish antics with a zeal & boundless energy. Due to our upbringing in two different places along our growing years ,we did not get to meet each other except for stray social events like marraiges in family or our ocassional visit to Mangalore for some ceremonies. Yet can rewind to the times that we always had some fun and games and gelled well. He always seemed the same through all those years. However far & inbetween were our interactions,whenever we met-we hit it off well like the closest of pals.

Our real association,though started in 1990. I have pictorical memory of a curly haired ,thin, fast talking ,gawky youngster with flashy dressing & almost bollywoodish attitude coming home to talk to my granny when I was in my 12th. There was something unique about him.He was all heart, easy to get along with, simple yet the one thing that stood out was his AMBITION-a steely resolve to achieve a niche for himself! I have been closely associated through his slow progress professionally & have noticed the marked improvement in his outlook to life as he went riding the crests & troughs life offered him enroute. I have always shared his sense of pride when he got his 1st HERO PUCH, his sense of achievement whenhe graduated to own a HeroHonda & eventually a sense of chidlish delight on owning a Maruti Car before growing to own a HYUNDAI ACCENT with a sense of purpose! As he moved from a non-discrete room shared with a friend to different rented houses in Bangalore, I knew & could sense that one day he would make Bangalore his home! My forecast has indeed come true! I'm mighty elevated today -27April'09 that my big brother has made his dream come true-to build & own a house of his own in Bangalore!

"Our brothers and sisters are there with us from the dawn of our personal stories to the inevitable dusk" said Susan Scarf Merrell.I can write a whole book on your life from whatever I have seen & known of you!Hence this idea of writting a blog as a dedication to my brother on his proud day-the Gruhapravesham of his dream house!

Sometimes being a brother is even better than being a superhero. ~Marc Brown ,I completely agree with this statement ,Ganesha,I'm realy proud of you dear for having gone through all the trials & tribulations that life threw at you & yet emerge stronger every single time! You sure are desitny's child! If life played a drama,you were always the pivotal character. I personally do not know of any individual whose life has seen so many turns & twists,threatening to gnaw at your inner strengths!But I'm so glad that you have slowly yet steadily grown victorious over all your adversities with your simple ,methodical yet in his own logical ways.There sure have been times when he did have tears in your eyes & mouth drying up with a nonchalant query against nature for being so rough on him,at times.

I recollect & rewind on how often Ganesh sprang back from every single drawback he faced. I have shared hisworries, tensions,fears,insecurities, but am glad that he has everytime converted those testing moments into hisstrengths & grown as a person.

Ganesh, I have not forgotten a single event/incident of your life that was shared with our family ,inclusing trivial fun growing up times when we used to discuss your heartline wink!

"It takes two men to make one brother" said Israel Zangwill.I could not agree more! In you I have seen two distinct men -my friend & inspiration drawn into one!

Astrid Alauda had said "There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother". How true?! Well my dear,even when 1000s of miles away from you,some how my heart yearns for all the good times we share. Today, I would like to reveal a fact that my eyes & heart still look out for you every single time I reach B'lore & I feel restless untill & unless I see you my dear! Know not if everyone feels this way for a brother, but I do!That proves to me how dear you are to me!

Ganesha, It was nice growing up with someone like you - someone to lean on, someone to count on... someone to tell on! I sought my soul, but my soul I could not see. I sought my God, but my God eluded me. I sought my brother and I found all three & THAT WAS YOU!!That high a esteem I hold you in & feel mighty blessed to have you in my life as my brother!

I strongly belive that "To the outside world we all grow old. But not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other's hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. We live outside the touch of time". Hence hope & pray that our association remains the same through times ahead.

I'm convinced that our relation will grow further & feel blessed to have you in my life as my borther & firmly endorse what St Francis of Assisi had said "And blessed is he who loves his brother as well when he is afar off as when he is by his side, and who would say nothing behind his back he might not, in love, say before his face"

I can not wait to meet you again & relive those magical moments of togetherness,fun.laughs & male talks "And when we do come together, there's a special blend of humor that we share. To others we might look silly, but such laughter is like conversation between me and my brother".

It doesn't seem to matter how much time has elapsed or how far we've travelled. But this brother of yours prays diligently every singel morning to the ALMIGHTY to make my brother's dreams come true . Today I stand vindicated that God does listen to sincere prayers & always blesses hardwork.You have worked hard & it has paid dividends.

Just know for a fact today Ganesh that, wherever I'm, I would always be there for you-anytime/everytime!! You have to just remember me!!

Proud of you BRO! Luv & care....Rock on!!!